Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Healing After an Affair - How to Survive Infidelity

Unfortunately many marriages today are impacted by one spouse committing adultery. Even though we tend to assume that it's the husband who wanders outside the marriage vows more often, that's not always the case. If you have been cheated on you are likely feeling an entire range of difficult emotions. Even with all the pain and frustration you are experiencing you may feel that you want to save the marriage. There are things you can do that will help with the process of healing after an affair. If you want your marriage to survive infidelity you must first give yourself time.

It's important when you are focused on healing after an affair to try and let the anger go. You likely experienced a feeling of unending rage after discovering the person you were married to was being unfaithful. Anger is a very intense emotion and if you are constantly mad at your spouse it's going to damage the relationship, maybe to the point that it's not salvageable. Getting past the anger can be a challenge but you must try to do it. It's really the foundation you need to start rebuilding the relationship.

Talking to someone understanding and open minded can be incredibly helpful when you are dealing with the aftermath of infidelity. Although it's always a wise idea to seek out the help of a therapist, if you have a trusted friend they can prove beneficial too. You just need someone who can understand the range of emotions that you are experiencing and also a person who will listen without passing judgment on either you or your spouse. Another way to express everything that you are feeling is to keep a journal. You can write in it as often as you feel it's necessary. This is a great tool to help you vent your emotions without it impacting your relationship with your spouse.

Concentrating on all the things that have been positive within your marriage goes a long way to help with healing after an affair. If you and your spouse spent a lot of time enjoying a hobby together or you used to take vacations, just the two of you, do that again. You need to work together to rediscover what drew you to one another in the first place. Spend time together doing things you both love and you'll feel that special connection with each other again.

Unfortunately there are times when one partner in a marriage indulges in an affair. It can leave the marriage broken and both partners feeling they've lost all hope of reconciliation. There are things you can do, with or without the aid of your spouse to get your marriage back into the loving place it once was. For more advice on what to do when your marriage is in serious trouble and steps you can take to save your relationship, visit this helpful site

3 Signs Your Partner Is Cheating

There are so many signs that could mean your partner is cheating, if you suspect your partner you should keep a close eye on them for a couple of weeks and make notes of their every move this way you will be able to tell if they have changed from their usual routine and opens the possibility that they are cheating on you.

The easiest way to do this is to hire a private investigator, however, this can be expensive and will also add to your guilt if your partner is not cheating. My advice is to start off by looking for these signs then if you feel it is necessary move onto the next step.

1) Is your partner more defensive than normal? Do they overreact when you ask simple questions, such as "what time will you be home" or "who did you have lunch with today"? If so this is usually a sign that they are feeling guilty about something. They often turn the question around a make you out to be the guilty person by saying things like "You always think I'm up to something, I'm sick of getting 20 questions when I come home, don't you trust me?" This type of behaviour is indicative of guilt. And your partner is probably cheating on you

2) Talking about someone too much. Has your partner started talking about a colleague or friend more than usual? This does not have to be in a positive way, it can include derogatory comments, and comparisons to you that are supposedly flattering. However, if a person talks about someone a lot it means that they are in their thoughts all the time, and this is when you should be suspicious of your partner cheating on you.

3) The Business Trip. This one is fairly obvious and it is easy to catch your partner out. Lets say they have suddenly told you that they need to go on a last minute business trip, however they have no details of where they will be staying, and no contact number. This is immediately suspicious, the first thing you need to do is call their work and talk to a colleague or superior to make sure they are going away. Otherwise chances are they are cheating on you!

I hope these three signs prove useful to you, just remember that whether or not your partner is cheating on you, the suspicion and guilt can ruin your relationship. You need to ensure that you are in a trusting relationship, if you can't trust your partner maybe you should not be with them.

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Monday, March 17, 2008

Best Way To Get Your Ex Back

A breakup doesn’t have to be the end of relationship. Sometimes it helps us to realize how much we love the person that we have been with and appreciate the beauty of that relationship.

If you feel that you are longing to your ex and don’t want him/her out of your life, you should stop blaming yourself and complaining about unfairness of life and start acting!

I’ve read multiple articles, where men have been suggesting that the best way to get your ex back is make him/her jealous. For, example you should start dating someone else immediately after breakup or ignore the person that you love completely. In their opinion, your ex should come running back to you in a month or so. In case if your ex is stupid enough to move on with his/her life, this person isn’t worthy of you to start with.

I personally think that this strategy is nothing else, but a nice excuse for not wanting to fight for the person that you love. It, however, can be effective, only if your ex broke up with you, because you were acting too needy and wimpy. Then you should definitely stop calling him/her every day, declaring your love and trying to get a second chance.

Both, men and women love challenge. We are more attracted to strong, funny and interesting people that are hard to get, than to weak, submissive people that are available at any time anyways. There is no interest in loving someone, whose world revolves around you. If you have been acting too “clingy” and needy around your ex, it is time to start turning into an independent and confident person.

Now, let’s look at the completely opposite scenario. You were the one who made too many mistakes and gradually push the person you love away. In this case ignoring your ex or making him/her jealous can be counter-productive as the person that you love will confirm in his/her decision to break up with you.

The best way to get your ex back would be to sincerely apologize and try to win his/her forgiveness by making something unpredictable and surprising. There are plenty of ways how to say, “I’m sorry”. You just have to use a little bit of creativity and persistence. If you have troubles coming up with something creative, search for some tips on the Internet. Good luck!

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Getting Back Into the Dating Game

If you've gone through a divorce and are ready to start going out on dates again, there are a few important things to keep in mind. Sometimes dating after a divorce can be intimidating for a person. Getting back into dating after a divorce can be tough. I have heard some people say that they forget how to date, or that the thrill is gone for them.

Most of the time, what this is really about is insecurity. Getting back on that horse after a divorce can be scary because you've likely had your heart broken by your former partner. Now, your confidence has been shaken and you wonder if you're really up to the task of wooing somebody else. Well you know what? You are. It just takes some practice.

First, though, it's crucial that you're getting back into the game for the right reasons. Don't let your good intentioned family or friends talk you into doing it before you're ready, and don't feel pressure to start seeing other people just because your former husband or wife is doing so. Rushing back into it before you're ready is almost a guaranteed way to ensure that it won't work.

As for the cold feet, just accept that there might be some "first time" jitters, and then get on with it. Recognize that there is a difference between not being ready to date and being nervous about it. It's perfectly acceptable and normal to be nervous! Take solace in the knowledge that it will become easier the more you do it.

Another concern people often have is that they don't know where to meet a potential love interest. Some of them feel like the bar scene no longer interests them. Others might find that everyone in their social circle is spoken for - this is natural, as married couples tend to seek out other married couples for friendship.

But, don't despair. There are alternatives to hitting up bars or relying on your friends set you up on blind dates. For example, online dating is becoming increasingly popular. It gives you the opportunity to meet potential partners without a lot of the hassle that is typically associated with putting yourself out there. Sometimes people who are getting back into dating after a divorce find this method to be the least threatening, as well.

Lastly, don't expect too much too soon. It's fine to date with the ultimate goal of finding that special person to settle down with, but it's not a good idea to be too intense about finding him or her. Remember to enjoy yourself, and treat the process first and foremost as a way to have fun and meet new people.

If you don't have success right away, don't give up. Chalk bad dates up to nothing more than learning experiences or funny stories you can use to entertain your friends. Remember that you have a lot to offer to the right man or woman, and don't settle for someone who doesn't make you happy! Getting back into dating after a divorce doesn't need to be scary - with the right attitude, it can be fun and exciting!

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The One Benefit Of A Long Distance Relationship

Did I mention that there is one benefit to having a long distance relationship? It puts money into the pockets of big airline corporations such as Virgin Atlantic, gas stations like Chevron and big phone companies like Verizon. They thank you very much for your business. Unfortunately for couples, there are no benefits for being in a long distance relationship. There is as enormous complexity of factors involved that make it difficult.

Let me tell you about the story of John and Jane. John lives in Los Angeles and Jane lives in New York. They both met at a party when Jane was in town on a business trip. The first problem that the two have is which one is the person that is going to be moving? Is either person willing to sacrifice their job or career for perhaps a lower pay or standard of living? What about leaving friends and family behind? If Jane is not moving to LA and John is not moving to New York, then why are they talking at all?

The second problem is that long distance relationships give a false sense of hope to one another. It may appear to raise each other's interest level, but in reality, it doesn't. It is the anticipation of meeting again that causes the interest to rise, creating a false sense of love. Any time your partner calls, you jump at the chance to talk. You never put her on hold or tell her that you're too busy with something else right now. Everything in your life gets put on hold to give her all of your attention.

The third problem that you have is that you can't bond if you're not around. There is a saying that "actions speak louder than words." You develop trust and comfort with that person when you are spending time together doing things. It allows you to see their personality, how the person reacts and how the person treats you. You can only judge a person's interest through their actions and body language which you obviously can't see in a LDR. Romance and love is by and large non-verbal, from the way you look at each other to the simple hugs given at the right moment when you need them. So what is the point of seeing each other every 3 or 6 months?

Problem number four is trying to make up for the distance by talking on the phone way too much. How does talking four or five times on a daily basis allow a relationship to build? Would you believe someone that is thousands of miles away who kept saying "I love you"! It's all talk and a phone call is definitely a poor substitute for a hug.

How about the 50 emails you send her everyday or the hours you spend instant messaging? What good does that do to building the relationship? But at the end, what do you really find out about that person? Did you go to their house? Did you see how she treats their parents or siblings? Maybe you did go to their place for a weekend. But yeah, you could have gone on a good day where she didn't treat her parents the way she usually does. Since you never see each other in normal day to day life, you lack the true knowledge of the other person and that is where the big problem lies.

The fifth problem is that it is a waste of money. Depending on where you are flying to and from, you can be spending thousands of dollars per year to see each other (and the false hope also). You may be going over your minutes and end up racking up $400 dollars per month phone bills. What about buying phone cards for international calls on a monthly basis? You may end up spending hundreds of dollars per year purchasing them. All this wasted money can be spent on building a relationship with someone who is close by.

Finally, It is a waste of time waiting for someone that is thousands of miles away. The fact is that no relationship, near of far, is 100% guaranteed. But the mere attempt at a long distance relationship increases the odds close to 100% that it is NOT going to work.

So what makes you think that your long distance love is going to be a hermit once he/she has committed to you? Most likely they won't be. They still have to go to work, go shopping, stop by the bank and go to the gym. Thus, they will be meeting others too, increasing the likelihood that they will meet someone that is better than you. If you are not there, then they have to fill that void with someone else. It's just the basic human need to be with others.

For John and Jane, their expectations of each other are skyrocketing even though they haven't seen each other in months. However, when they do get together as an exclusive couple, they would just end up at the start because they are really strangers to each other. The phone company AT&T almost had it right. Reach out but this time, don't touch someone.

Jeff is passionate about personal development topics and helping others find their true calling. More articles can be found at http://handylifeadvice.com

Relationship Breakup - Eight Steps To Healing

You're done. After much careful thought, you've ended the relationship. You did it firmly, no nasty words, almost without emotion. Maybe in person, perhaps by email or letter, but it is done.

If it was a physically abusive relationship, this is not the article you need to read. That is a different horse.

This one probably went on for a long time and it was more like Chinese water torture. Constant criticism, disapproval, disrespect. You could never do anything right. And the worst part about it is that you kept coming back for more. Trying to please. Looking for approval. Like a puppy who keeps bounding back only to be slapped down again.

It could be the smallest trigger that ended it for you. Almost a minor event but you finally had taken all you will take. All of a sudden, this person was history.

The initial reaction is exhilaration. Free at last! Free at last!

Then, about a week later, a sadness comes in. Did you act rashly? Were you unkind? Did you make a mistake? Funny how the victim blames themselves.

When a relationship ends it is like a death. You are in mourning. There is also some anger mixed in like what was wrong with you that you put up with it for so long.

You were not wrong in ending it. But the absence of abuse leaves a hole in your life that you have not learned to fill.

You have more work to do.

Here are some suggestions.

1. Don't discuss it with your friends. Rehashing it over and over brings back the abuse. What you might consider, if you have not already done so, is see a therapist. Not to justify your actions but perhaps to find out what is in your background that allowed you to put up with this for so long. There are so many instances where people keep ending up with the same abusive person with a different name and face. You don't want to repeat this.

2. Expect that there is this new space in your life that you will have to fill with other things. But, you don't have to do it immediately. You need time to adjust to all this free time where you are not feeling unworthy. Try not to plug the space with another person. You have other friends. See them.

3. Treat yourself as a person with post traumatic stress disorder. You are in a process of healing. Go to bed an hour earlier every day. Do not take on any extra responsibilities. Just go about your normal routine - nothing more.

4. Fill your extra time with some comfort. When is the last time you had a massage? A pedicure? Go shopping and buy yourself a celebration gift. Does not have to be expensive - just something you would enjoy seeing on your coffee table. Buy flowers every week. Just for you. Not because you are entertaining.

5. Keep a journal of how you feel every day. Do not read it for a month. You will see then how far you have come.

6. Even the worst relationships have had some good moments. Write about these in your journal. There were some benefits. It was not all wasted time.

Remind yourself that we learn more from our failures than our successes.

7. Everyone will tell you to exercise. You don't feel like it. But park your car further away from the supermarket. Get off the bus the block before your stop. A little activity can help you.

8. Be prepared that the person you have broken with may not go away quietly. Have a plan how you will react if they suddenly start calling, or writing or showing up or sending you cards and gifts. Keep your plan.

You have taken a step in your life that is important. Give yourself credit for it.

The step is called self love. Congratulations! You have started to love yourself at last.

A published writer, but a "newbie" as a blogger. Loving it! When I tell you I did not know the difference between a webpage and a blog only a months ago, I would not be lying! Now I do and as they say in Brooklyn, where I originated, "Who knew?" I picked personal growth as my topic because I not only have been a self help junkie for years but I had a TV show on national cable for eleven years and interviewed over 400 authors in that time. Including all the most famous ones you see on Oprah! Since book sales on numbering in the billions in the personal growth field, I thought there would be great interest in this niche. Also, because I am a lady of a "certain age," I have been around the block a few times, made many mistakes and have achieved some success. I am hoping to share my good wisdom with my readers.

Saturday, March 1, 2008


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Tuesday, February 26, 2008

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Thursday, February 21, 2008

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Thursday, February 7, 2008

How to Tell If Cheating is Occurring In Your Marriage

Most women and men who have been cheated on will tell you that they had some suspicions that something was amiss. Some of the signs of an adulterous affair are very obvious, while others are a bit harder to detect. If you are wondering how to tell if cheating is occurring in your marriage, consider the behavior of your spouse very carefully.

Many times when a person is being unfaithful they will make excuses that afford them time away to meet their lover. This can include a few stolen moments for a quick cell phone conversation or an entire weekend away at a lover's retreat. Anytime your spouse seems to make excuses for their absence, this should be noted. Even if they just claim they need to run to the store for some milk. If this occurs over and over again, it's likely not milk that is pulling them away from you. The same is true if their work suddenly takes more and more time. If your husband or wife never had to go away for business in the past, and now does, without an increase in salary, you should be questioning it. Also, if they have to work a great deal of overtime and their paycheck doesn't reflect it, something isn't adding up. They are likely spending time with their new lover.

How your spouse interacts with you can be very telling as well. If you want to know how to tell if cheating is occurring in your marriage, think about how quickly your spouse returns calls you make to him or her. This is particularly true of cell phone calls. If their voicemail repeatedly picks up when they should be available, this may be a warning sign that they are engaged with someone else. Don't be afraid to ask them why they didn't answer or what took them so long to return the call.

Some times when a person is committing adultery they become very concerned with their spouse's schedule. The reason being that once they know when their spouse is busy, they can make plans to meet their lover. If your husband or wife has suddenly taken a strong interest in when you have plans, don't overlook this. If you really do suspect they are being unfaithful, you can suggest a time when you'll be busy and then wait outside to see what they do once they believe you've left.

One of the simplest ways of how to tell if cheating is occurring in your marriage is to log the mileage being put on their car. When a person is having an extramarital affair, they almost always drive to see their lover at times. If you know approximately how far it is for your spouse to drive to work and back, calculate if there is a considerable difference in the actual mileage they are putting on their car in a week compared to what it should be. This will give you some insight into whether or not they are going out of their way to see someone else.

Paying attention to small details can yield big results when you suspect your spouse is cheating. If you do have suspicions pay closer attention to your spouse and what they are and aren't doing. With more than 60% of men and 40% of women having an extramarital affair, you'll want to know what's happening in your marriage. To learn other warning signs of adultery - Click Here To Learn More!

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Cheating Boyfriend - Cheating Girlfriend - Here's an Easy Way To Find Out If Your Partner Is Cheating

If you have ever wondered if you have a cheating boyfriend or girlfriend, here's a quick and easy way to get some answers. You deserve to know the truth about whether your partner is being faithful.

This method of getting answers is going to take a little "detective" work on your part. Let's go over the steps one-by-one of how to find out if your "special someone" is cheating (there are 3 steps in total).

Step #1

This is the only step that requires to be a little "sneaky". You need to get a hold of your partner's cell phone for about 15 minutes.

Choose a good time for this when you know you won't get caught. Maybe they have just jumped in the shower or stepped out to the store and left their phone at home.

When you have their phone, grab a pen and paper and look over their call history. Write down every phone number that shows up in their "incoming" and "outgoing" call lists.

If there are phone numbers that you recognize and know for sure whose number it is, you can leave them off your list. However, make sure to write down every number that you don't recognize.

Once you have done this, put the cell phone back where you got it and head over to your computer with your list.

Step #2

This step will let you find out who owns each phone number on your list and exactly who your spouse has been talking to. You can find out someone's full name, address, location details and other information simply by having their phone number.

The way to do this is to conduct what is know as a "reverse phone search". There are companies that specialize in building databases of all phone records and then let you run a search on any number you want.

Over half of phone numbers out there are either cell phones or unlisted. This means they aren't published in any phone book and their records are available to the public.

However, these companies pay money to get these records. They will charge a small fee to run a search, but it isn't expensive. You are going to run a search on each number on your list and write down the information for each number. The person's full details will be instantly displayed on your computer screen.

Go to http://www.easyreversephonelookup.com to try a free sample search. Bookmark the page if you don't have your list with you right now.

As you go through the list, jot down all the information that comes up.

Step #3

Now that you have all the information completed on your list, it's time to go through you results and look at who your partner has been talking to.

Often times people will have a certain person in mind that their spouse might be cheating with - if that is the case, is their name on the list? How about the other names, does anything look suspicious?

This is your time to find out if anything "fishy" is going on. Knowing who your partner has been talking to will give you a good idea of whether they have been cheating or not.

Wondering if you have a cheating boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse can be extremely stressful. Obviously you need to know if you are being treated with the respect your deserve - this easy and quick method of "detective work" will let you get the answers you need.

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Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Top 6 Reasons Couples Break Up

Each day, more relationships fall apart...it seems like the list of things that can end them is endless, but really most of the biggest killers are fairly simple. If your relationship is in danger or has already broken apart, I'm here to help you by listing off some of the main reasons people go their separate ways. Once you know what causes a breakup, you can usually fix it!

1) Unfaithfulness is a supreme destroyer of relationships...nothing really wounds a person so much as when his/her partner isn't happy enough at home that he/she decides to go looking for what's missing in other places. Cheating on your lover is probably the coldest, most hurtful thing you can do to a person and usually results in nigh-unfixable breakups...so the best way to deal with the problem is to never have it in the first place.

2) Neglecting your partner's feelings is another really hurtful thing that can cause a breakup, and in fact does a lot of the time. People have emotions, even the guys who like to act like they don't so much...and it really hurts when they're never considered by the person whom the love the most. Always listen to your partner, and be considerate of how he/she feels.

3) Fights happen in all relationships, it's almost natural, but when tempers really soar and people just can't cool off and take things with a level head it can really cause dissension. Nobody likes to be with a person who's always flying off the handle, and can't be reasoned with. Conflicts are going to happen, but how well they're dealt with separates the people who stay together from the couples that fragment and scatter.

4) Movies have made it seem like it's only ever girls who get too controlling, and in fact film has made it even seem funny, but the truth is that both guys and girls can become overly demanding and controlling of their partners...and it's no laughing matter, as anyone who's been in that kind of relationship can tell you. If you don't have trust, you don't have anything...and if you keep hounding your partner about what goes on every minute of every day, you won't have him or her either.

5) Allowing a relationship to get boring and stale is perhaps one of the most tragic ways that one can end, as it's pretty much just a case of so little going on that a person doesn't really care anymore. Lack of spontanaeity and "spice" is a relationship's enemy, although you don't have to freak out if you aren't doing something new every hour. Spend time together, and do things that are fun for both of you! It's crazy to simply let a relationship "reach its expiration date."

6) Annoying habits in small numbers can be almost endearing, but when they start to take over it can be a serious problem. Usually just having a bad habit of biting your nails or tapping your foot won't end a relationship, but when these things are a blatant constant and in larger numbers than just two or three, they can add a lot of stress that can make normally minor problems impact your partner a lot more. Everyone has a few bad habits, but in the interest of peacekeeping it's a good idea to try to ease up on the things that really drive your partner crazy.

There are a lot of things that can contribute to the "demise" of a relationship, and these are really just a few of them...but by thinking this way you should have a good shot at identifying any of the things that are really hurting your relationship...and if you're in the middle of a breakup, then addressing problems like these could really help your chances of getting through it with your partner still by your side!

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3 Ways to Begin Healing After a Relationship Break Up or Divorce

Breaking up can be a very traumatic event and almost always causes huge changes in a person's life. Moving on after a relationship break up can be very difficult. You can feel stuck for a very long time and it might even be difficult to go through normal activities.

Healing a broken heart and moving on after a breakup or divorce is something that can take time but time is not the only factor in the healing process. There are some other things that you can do to help yourself recover and move on with your life.

If you have recently suffered a break up and it's been difficult for you, here are 3 ways to heal you heal and get your life back...

1. Give yourself the space and the time to grieve the relationship without drowning in your grief. When there has been a relationship breakup or divorce, it’s often tempting to do things that keep your grief alive. You might be tempted to play music that was special to you and your partner, to visit places where you went together as a couple, and to constantly think and worry about your ex. If you find yourself doing this and it is causing you pain, stop doing it. If you need to, set aside time to cry everyday, but don't keep yourself stuck in your past.

2. Start looking at "what is" instead of focusing on "what was" or "what might have been." One of the biggest ways people keep themselves from moving on after a break up or divorce is that they live in a fantasy world about what the relationship was or could have been. If you truly want to heal from this relationship, take a realistic look at what is and was actually true about this relationship and accept this truth, instead of conjuring up stories that have no basis of truth.

3. Take some time to figure out what you learned from this relationship and what you want in a new relationship before you start dating again. Your friends may give you relationship advice that urges you to start dating as soon as possible. Before you do, it's important to take the time and space to heal your heart and to discover what you want in your life. While it's normal to dwell in the past after a break up, looking toward what you want will help you to heal.

We suggest that today you begin your healing process and start shaping your life the way you want it to be.

Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and authors who help people create lives that are filled with more passion, love and connection. For more tips and a free mini-course on how to move on after a relationship break-up or divorce, visit http://www.HowToHealYourBrokenHeart.com/indexminicoursesignup.html

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Five Aphrodisiacs That Are Within Your Easy Reach

Since time immemorial, people all across the world have been searching for a miracle food that will help raise their sexual desire or that of their partners. Some believe that oysters are effective in increasing libido, while others tend to put their faith in exotic foods, such as the balls of an Asian tiger or a bark of a tree that can only be found in the Amazon. Although many attest to the effectiveness of such aphrodisiacs, studies and research that back these suppositions are still lacking.

You do not have to climb the steepest mountain or brave uncharted jungles just to find a delicacy to rekindle your sex life. You just need to find out what types of food could help raise hormones that are needed to jumpstart sizzling nights with your spouse. To help reactivate your sex life with your beloved, try incorporating these five common foods to your diet and marvel at the results in a couple of days or weeks.

Dark Chocolate

A person who is in a state of anxiety and stress is usually not in the mood for some steamy sex at night or even the following morning. Eliminate stress, be more relaxed and happy and you will be more open to the prospect of doing the deed with your partner all night long. One of the reasons why dark chocolate is on top of the list of foods that help spark an active sex life is that it promotes the production of endorphins, a hormone that makes individuals feel good, relaxed and happy. If you don't want to ruin your curves, just eat a couple of dark chocolate squares after dinner and wait for your mood to change from catty to naughty.


Taking a few teaspoonfuls of honey a day can actually do wonders for your sexual relationship with your partner. Since this bee-produced sweetener is a simple carbohydrate, it is a main source of instant energy. Moreover, pure and unadulterated honey contains boron and B vitamins. Boron is needed by the body in order to use female sex hormone estrogen, which plays an important role in the arousal of women. B vitamins, on the other hand, are vital in the production of male sex hormone testosterone.


This green stalk is not only a must for dieters, but also the missing ingredient in reviving sexual attraction between long-time couples. According to experts, raw celery is a good source of androsterone, a male hormone that helps mimic the effect of pheromone that makes a man more attractive and irresistible to women. For guys out there, if you want to be more alluring than Johnny Depp in the eyes of your girlfriend or wife, remember to eat a few stalks of celery a day. Women can also benefit from eating celery because it helps elevate their mood.


When you are in your 40s or 50s, your stamina or endurance in the bedroom start to wane. Copulation that used to last for several hours is replaced with a short and often unsatisfying sexual encounter. In order to improve endurance for some foreplay and the main act itself, you ought to eat a piece of this yellow fruit, which also aids in the production of testosterone, a few hours before trying to get it on with your partner.


You may think that this pungent root is an unlikely candidate for an aphrodisiac. However, ginger is actually valuable in promoting good blood flow, particularly in the genital area. If you don't like to eat ginger before the act because of fear of bad breath, you can actually just sniff fresh ginger to increase blood flow to your vaginal or penile area and increase that organ's sensitivity.

If you are not keen on eating any of the food mentioned above, you can actually just look for supplements that can help increase your libido. For women, you can take Fematril to help get you in the mood for some bedroom action. Learn more about this product by visiting www.fematril.com.

Sharon Bell is an avid health and fitness enthusiast and published author. Many of her insightful articles can be found at the premiere online news magazine http://www.healthnfitnesszone.com

Sex and Marriage Relationships - 7 Things Nobody Tells Moms About Sex After Having Kids

Do you know how much your marriage relationship and sex life have changed after having kids? Everyone tells you that your life will never be the same after becoming parents. What they forget to tell you is how much your sex life will change.

Here are seven things that no one ever tells moms about sex after having children:

1. You would fantasize more about sleep than sex.

You probably never realized how tired you would be as a mom. You are so busy taking care of the kids and the house that you may not even think about sex. By the time you go to bed, all you want to do is sleep.

2. At the end of the day, you are tired of someone touching you.

If you have young children, they are probably hanging onto you all the time. They want your attention from the time they wake up until the time they go to sleep. After they go to bed, you want your body to yourself and sex can easily become just another chore.

3. Your husband might not always occupy the first place in your heart or mind.

Being a mom is one of the greatest blessings you will ever experience. Those little ones need you and you are the most important thing in their lives. It is easy to get so focused on the kids that you stop focusing on your marriage. However, you still have a husband and the most important gift you will ever give to your children is a stable marriage and family life.

4. Your body will never be the same.

Weight gain, sagging breast, stretch marks and more. Your body changes after childbirth. Some changes you can work on though exercise and diet. Other changes are permanent. Many moms do not feel as sexy and are self-conscious about their husbands seeing them naked having a baby.

5. During sex, you are distracted listening for the kids.

If you have little ones at home, you probably are always listening for them. If your kids are teenagers, you may be listening for them to come home and wondering what they are doing and where they are.

You may have trouble turning that off during sex. It is harder to stay focused on the moment if you are still thinking about the kids.

6. You may no longer see your breast as a sex object.

If you are nursing a baby, you may feel like you have someone attached to your breast all day (and sometimes all night) and you do not want to share your breast with your husband. You may even forget that your breasts have any other purpose other than to feed your baby.

7. You cannot remember what spontaneous sex was like.

With kids at home, you may have to plan for sex. If you wait for the perfect mood to strike, you may be waiting for a long time.

Being "Daytime Parents and Nighttime Lovers"

Even with all these changes in your life, it is still possible to have a satisfying marriage and sex life. However, it does take more effort and work with kids at home.

If you are ready to know how to secrets to sizzling sex after becoming parents, then I invite you to get a free report, "Daytime Parents and Nighttime Lovers: 7 Secrets to Sizzling Sex After Having Kids" at http://www.SexTipsForParents.com.

For more great tips and tools for building your dream marriage, visit our website at http://www.BuildingYourDreamMarriage.com. At our website, you can sign up for our free e-course, "5 Common Barriers to Building Your Dream Marriage".

Good luck with building your dream marriage- Laurel Barnet

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Breakup Sex

f you and your ex had a very hot and steamy sex life, more than likely you are missing the intimate times that you both shared.

And if you dare think that giving your ex some real good loving will make him/her want you back, you are making a huge mistake.

The sex may be hotter since you both have been apart but the only one who will be on fire is you. You will burn with regret. Your emotions will once again be thrown like a screeching rat in front of a cat because of the imbalance of power in your relationship.

You can’t use sex to make your ex stay. It will cheapen your worth and make your ex subconsciously believe that you are trash. On a physical level, your ex may enjoy the sex but on a more deeper level, he/she will actually think that you are a desperate psycho who will use sex to get what you want, “Would you please have that one carefully examined?”

Your ex will be less attracted to you because he/she is wanting out of your relationship and you are using the sex card to keep it. Who can respect anyone like that?

The reason why you shouldn’t go there is because your relationship goes back to base when someone announces that he/she wants out of it. This means that your ex is now a virtual stranger to you and you wouldn’t give sex to a stranger would you?

It’s like someone who uses sex for money. This is low class. Someone can be physically attracted to you but that does not mean they have an emotional connection. Your ex no longer has an emotional connection to you that is why your relationship broke up. He/she no longer found you attractive on an emotional level. Well...maybe the only connection left is he/she don’t mind having you as an ex with benefits.

You can’t use sex to secure your relationship. If your relationship is not in the soul - meaning that you and your partner having a deep emotional connection - then move on to someone who has the qualities that you are looking for and for whom you can share yourself with on all levels.

Starting Over In A New Safe Sex Relationship

Most people who have been in a relationship deal with the infamous 'new relationship' feeling which can be rather scary when you've spent so many months and some cases years with the same person. When you're either broken up or divorced, starting over feels weird because when you were with the same person you had a routine, and then you're dating someone new which means new interests and new routines. It also means that you have to think about and discuss contraceptive devices, safe sex and birth control.

Starting over is not easy for anyone especially if you've been with someone for months or years and it's a slow process of healing from the last relationship. You want to give yourself time when entering a new relationship to get to know the person and the things that make he/she who they are. You also need to talk about contraceptive devices, safe sex and birth control before taking a step into the intimacy department. You can not assume that your new partner agrees with or will follow the same norms and safe sex habits that you exercised with your previous partner. You're also in a vulnerable position in a new relationship, and as time goes by you start to find out things about yourself that you didn't know about when you were with that last person.

First and foremost take your time in getting to know someone because love works in phases and you want to move through each without skipping a step. One of those all important steps is talking to your new relationship partner about contraceptive devices, safe sex and birth control. It's important to find out how they feel about various contraceptive devices and methods of safe sex, and what types of contraceptive devices or birth control they prefer to use.

New relationships grow when each side allows themselves plenty of time to get to know the other person and not rushing into anything. It also grows when you take the time to talk about important issues like safe sex. The time that a relationship is new is between one and five months and that's the make or break point when you start a new relationship. Usually if people aren't careful they can lose someone in that time frame because you want to get to know someone from the inside out before you start becoming intimate. Sometimes, while unfortunate, that make or break conversation is the one that you need to have about contraceptive devices, safe sex and birth control.

In this day and age the mentality is that you should start sleeping with the person to see if they're worth dating. That's the biggest mistake in a new relationship because you haven't had the time to discuss openly subjects like safe sex and birth control. This mentality also introduces sex way too early in the relationship from when you began dating. You can easily have your judgment clouded when you're trying to get to know someone and trying to find the appropriate time to talk about contraception and safe sex. This can cause stress and confusion when you're trying to get to know someone better and getting physical with them before you talk about safe sex can really do damage to new relationships.

It's ideal to wait on sex until you've gotten to know the person pretty well to be able to take things to that next level. You should take the time first to talk about contraceptive devices with your new partner. Too many people rush to the sexual part of a new relationship before it's had a chance to really take off. By the time they see the actual picture, they're back to square one in getting to know someone all over again. Counselors who work with people with relationship issues have advised that they should give some time between relationships to work on themselves before making that transition back into dating or remarrying.

Giving time between a past and a new relationship helps you to work through issues you don't want to bring to the new relationship. This is also a time where the other person in the relationship looks at your comfort zone and sees if you've gotten over the other person and if you're still having those lingering feelings. Being capable of talking about contraceptive devices, safe sex and birth control in an adult fashion is an important step in any relationship - so be sure that you have the maturity and the capability of talking about important issues before you take the next step in your relationship. If you are not ready to talk about safe sex, or feel uncomfortable, you might not ready to take that far of a step back into the dating arena.


Dating Relationship:The One I Love Belongs to Somebody Else

You just walked into your favorite restaurant for lunch. You love the food but right now you have something else on your mind. You are expecting someone else to join you and here they are. Both of you greet each other warmly. From the first time you met on the job, there has been some intense attraction between the two of you.

You want to build on the emotions you are feeling and so does the other person; sort of. Why sort of? For the simple reason, they are already involved in a relationship with someone other than you.

This is nothing new. No doubt you have heard all those songs about falling in love with another person's wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or whatever. The reality is it happens everyday and in most instances, like yours, both parties go into it with their eyes wide open.

Again they tell you they are involved with another person. You hear and understand but you still hold out hope that something will change the situation. You tell the other person, that they must feel the same way; otherwise they would not be here.
All of this maybe true but the best thing the both of you can is end it right here and now. You maybe the nicest person on the continent but in essence what you are doing is trying your best to break up a relationship just to satisfy yourself.

1. What if it was you?

It seems when people get involved in these situations they never stop to think what if the shoe was on the other foot. Let's say you are successful in breaking up their relationship and having the other person all to yourself. Fine but now they meet someone else who attracts them even more than you do. What then? You wind up in the same position as the first person. Karma can be quite nasty so if you do not want to be on the receiving end than it is best to let it go

2. Trust

The other person tells you they are engaged or seriously involved with someone else. So what are they doing there sitting next to you putting out feelers? Curb your emotions for a minute and think. Can you really trust someone who says they are in a committed relationship but is out looking for some action?

3. Wait

You both agree to pursue this further except that the other person cannot quite end their other relationship now. You give them the cornball line that, "you are willing to wait as long as it takes." The reality is nobody has that kind of time. Sure the two of you may get closer and more intimate but you are still the third wheel. As long as the other person remains in their relationship, you are sharing them. No matter how you feel now, this can get old very quickly.

4. The Explosion

It's bad enough sneaking around but now it gets back to the other person. No they are not going to do the "proper" thing and bow out gracefully. In fact they are ready to fight so as to keep the other person in the relationship but more importantly not to be made a fool of. Hurt pride is a powerful motivator. Are you willing to escalate the situation? Besides you really do not know what side of the fence the object of your affection will choose to stand on. You may wind up winning the battle and losing the war in a big way.

It is in your best interest to avoid getting involved with someone who is already in a committed relationship. There are plenty of people within your world who are unattached and looking to see if they can generate some chemistry with you. Maybe yes, maybe no. But involving yourself with someone who is already involved can take a major toll on everyone concerned especially you. The victory in most instances is not worth the price.

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Should I Call Him? 3 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Calling Men

I've done it myself. I've called a guy after a great date. Is that so wrong? Actually, most of the time it might be. Complicated isn't it, this world of communications between men and women. How about texting? Is that ok? What about calling after a certain amount of time. Is that ok? Is it impossible to figure this all out? Are you doomed to being powerless? Absolutely not!

There are some basic rules and information that can help you make the right moves and keep the worry monster away.

1. If he calls and you aren't available, return the call. It's polite, it's friendly and it's the right thing to do. If you like him, this may be his time to ask you out and if you wait too long, he may think you are not interested. If you aren't interested, call him anyway. It's the right thing to do and at some point you have to learn to do the hard things in life such as telling a nice guy, "I like you , and thanks for asking me out again, but I didn't feel we had enough in common to move on to a second date."

2. You had a great date and he isn't calling. Should you call him the next day and thank him? NO! I hope you thanked him on the night of the date. Now, you wait.

3. Why are there rules? Why is a man the one who should call after a date? Hasn't the world changed? Yes, of course the world has changed in many wonderful ways for men and women. But calling after a date isn't one of them - and that's not a bad thing. Every game has rules and the dating game is no different. Play by the rules and everyone is comfortable. That's why you don't see people in restaurants standing on tables and yelling - the rules of eating out require you not act like that. They also require using utensils properly and speaking in a quiet tone of voice. The world runs smoother this way.

And the same is true of communications between men and women. Is it fair? Actually, yes. Rules allow you to know where you stand in the game of dating. If he doesn't call you after a date, you know he doesn't want to go out again. At least not now. Ok, that's a bummer - but it frees you up to move on to the one who can't wait to call you and see you again after a date.

Men are different! They like the thrill of the chase. Let him chase you until you catch him!

Communications are critical - we all have to talk or send signals or we won't know what to do and what is going on. But understanding some basic psychology of gender differences can make it or break it in the dating game.

If you really need to talk about "the night before" - call a friend. Tell her the good, the bad, and the ugly. And then, go play a game of tennis or do some work, or call another friend. Go have a life - the more you do that, the less you will care if he calls, and the happier you will be whether he does or not. Life is not lived on the cell (not completely anyway!). So go do something and see how interesting you are to him when he calls and you are out doing something!

Ann Bradley's website at http://www.cyberluv.com or for more information on optimism and happiness, visit http://www.youareincontrol.info

Should You Apologize In A Relationship

We are always at odds with ourselves. We debate on whether we are right or wrong. To apologize in a relationship may be a healthy thing to do. Whether or not we need to apologize in a relationship is not really the question but whether or not we want to be understood and cared for in a relationship is really the deep rooted question here.

This article will go into some reasons why it is necessary to apologize in a relationship and some of the benefits that can be derived from a couple of simple words. What are these words? Read on...

How big is your ego? Do you always have to be right in everything? Does everybody always have to do it your way? If you fall into these categories even a little bit then you might need a tune up in your attitude. At least you need a paradigm shift in your thinking about the issue of apologizing to anyone.

Hey, even if we're right about something and your other half disagrees having to apologize in a relationship is not a bad idea. The hardest thing that people can do is to apologize even though they are right in a situation. Having to apologize does not take away from the credibility of anyone, in fact it probably enhances the credibility by making yourself a real person.

Of course everyone is entitled to their opinions and having to apologize in a relationship about issues reaffirms that conviction that you are real and that you respect your other half opinion as well.

Having to apologize in a relationship does not mean that you agree with anyone else, it's just that you need to apologize to show the other person respect and by giving that response you will probably end up just where you want. You probably will end up in the drivers seat in your opinion by letting down your guard in the opinion category.

While some people may not expect apologies from their partners it seems like an unwritten rule that there will b e a loss of respect between the two people if an apology doesn't surface from someone. It's better to take the initiative in this case, even if you're right to apologize in a relationship in order to keep the relationship alive and well.

Compromising with each other is just part of the relationship game. You want to win in this game you must learn to sacrifice and part of that sacrifice comes with apologies. Accepting one another for all the faults that we have is part of loving and accepting each other for what we are.

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Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Keeping Love Alive and Well With the Law of Attraction

I have a friend who wants to know why he no longer feels the same love for his wife he did for the first 17 years of their marriage. Now this is not about a wife who has cheated, been neglectful, or done anything wrong. It is not about an abusive situation or one where she is no longer interested in the marriage but it is, at this point a long-distance relationship. That being said, let's go back to the basics here. We know that whatever you focus attention on in your life grows stronger. In a situation like this, he is focused on the lack of love instead of the love itself. In so doing he is inadvertently manifesting more of the same.

Focusing on other women (or men) and trying to resist them is focusing energy on other people. Fantasizing about other people focuses attention on them and results in unhealthy and counterproductive energy that works against your goal. It is therefore a bad idea to go around talking about all the negative problems in your relationship and the wonderful qualities you see in other attractive people. Don't dwell on your dilemma. Maintain your focus on the relationship you've committed yourself to. Fantasize about your partner. Focus on why you fell in love in the first place. Remember when you fell in love...what was it that made you think of nothing else than being with your lover?

A good way to focus on you partner is to make a list each day of 30 or more things you love about your spouse; write them down and read them over. Concentrate all your attention on those things. Act as if you are hopelessly in love with them the way you were when you first met. Additionally, send flowers, write love notes, and send text messages; whatever you did back when you first fell in love. Call to mind the times when the mere mention of their name was like a sigh during a busy moment and let it be again. Remember the times when the first thing you wanted to do when something good happened was to tell your partner... and you actually did. Do that again!

Can you imagine the intensity of your relationship if you both worked as hard to maintain it as you did when you initially developed it in the first place? Remember the hours you once spent getting to know each other? When was the last time you asked your partner to tell you something about them you didn't already know? When was the last time you revealed something new to your partner? When was the last time you looked at your partner as if they were someone you might not necessarily know everything about? When was the last time you looked at that person as if you didn't see them every day? If you focus on your partner as a gift, as someone you cherish and are blessed with, you will start to see just how blessed you really are.

If you are separated for any length of time, as many of us are these days, make the extra effort to let your partner know you're thinking of them. Send flowers or candy and write letters often, even if you can't send them. When they get home, they will have a journal to read filling them in on what happened while they were gone. Wouldn't it be nice when you get back together to have a bunch of love letters to read about how much you were missed and thought of as well as what your partner did while you were apart?

Ideas such as these will help maintain your focus and attention on your relationship, right where it needs to be. That focused energy strengthens it even through difficult times, and helps to remove distracters and negative influences that only serve to derail the passion you both once knew and can have once again. Just remember...love is a gift and maintaining it is a choice, so make the decision!! It can all begin right now...good luck!

S Ryanne Stellingwerf - EzineArticles Expert Author

Relationship Advice - Simple Tips and Tools to Keeping Your Love Life Energized

If you are in a relationship already you deserve congratulations. But, be warned, you have to work on it. A relationship requires effort from both parties to ensure it is blissful. Here is some relationship advice to ensure that your relationship remains blissful and on track.

1. Listen for more than words- The old saying is "actions speak louder than words." This is as true in a relationship as it is in any other circumstance. You need to pay attention to more than just what your partner is saying. You need to pay attention to their actions and their emotions to ensure the relationship stays on track.

2. Pay compliments- If you like something that your partner is doing, pay them a compliment. Everyone likes receiving compliments.

3. Actually listen- A conversation is not just waiting for your partner to close their mouth so you can open yours. In a truly blissful relationship, you will actually listen to the words coming out of your partner's mouth and the conversation will flow accordingly.

4. Make plans together- Find things that you can do together and make plans. A couple that plays together can stay together.

5. Have some alone time- This is actually an extremely important piece of advice. Before you got together you both had separate friends and separate lives. Sometimes you need some alone time, and some time apart. Building yourself as an individual will help you as a couple. It can bring you closer together.

6. Explore all levels of intimacy- Intimacy is not just about sex. Talk together, spend time alone and just talk about everything and anything.

7. Have Good Manners- You may have been together for a long time, but that does not give you the right to be rude. Say 'excuse me,' and don't burp or pass gas in front of your partner.

If you follow the 7 tips mentioned above, you should be well on your way to a blissful relationship.

I'd like to offer you free access to our wonderful relationship tool. It is our Relationship Start-Up Guide: 50 Things You Should Know Before Starting a Relationship. You can pick up your copy at http://www.RelationshipAdviceHeadquarters.com

From Bj Moorer and http://www.RelationshipAdviceHeadquarters.com

Relationship Advice - The Lies Men Tell Women in Relationships

Recently on my weekly Relationship Radio Show on in Atlanta, I had the privilege of interviewing relationship coach Bj Moorer. Bj has a bit of a different view of the relationship world.

Bj's interesting take on relationships is best summed up by the title of her brand new ebook "Love, Lies, Men and Women: The Lies We Tell and the Damage They Do"

In the series she is creating, Bj looks at the lies men tell women, the lies women tell men, and the lies couples tell each other about their relationship. While Bj covers all the different types of lies, you must start somewhere, and Bj begins in Volume 1 of her series with the lies men tell women.

That was the topic of my recent interview with her, and now we'll take a look at the top 5 lies men tell women.

Lie 1 - "I'll call you tomorrow" - Men say this so often, and get away with it, because women want to believe it. Bj's advice is to not wait by the phone for the call and go live your life. If the call does not come in the first few days, it is not coming. Move on.

Lie 2 - "I love you"- Too bad this is a common lie that reduces the value of some precious words. Bj' warning is that when it is said too soon in a relationship it is often an attempt at controlling the other person.

Lie 3 - "I'm not married" - The problem is most men say this and most adult men are married so you do the math. If you have a gut feeling that you are being lied to about this, ask for his home phone number and see how he responds.

Lie 4 - "No one understands me like you do" - This one can be designed to get you to feel sorry for him. You know for certain that this is just massive manipulation when it is closely followed by a large request such as borrowing money or asking to move in with you.

Lie 5 - "I'm not seeing anyone else" - Well, maybe. Pay attention to when and how this information is offered in a relationship. Just like some of the other lies, offering this information too soon or when it is not requested is a huge warning sign that someone is trying to pull the wool over your eyes.

One powerful piece of advice offered by coach Bj is to trust your gut instinct. If something is not making sense or adding up, pursue it. Don't try to talk yourself out of it or excuse your intuition away. Pay attention.

And now I would like to offer you free access to Bj's Relationship Start Up Guide at http://www.RelationshipAdviceHeadQuarters.com

You can also catch my weekly Relationship Radio Show each Thursday at 5 pm Eastern on http://www.RadioSandySprings.com in Atlanta.

From Jeff Herring - Host of the Relationship Radio Show in Atlanta and SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Break Ups - A Way to Cope

To anyone that’s been through one (and that’s probably most), a break up in a relationship and be catastrophic. Some sufferers even feel that it is the ‘End of the World’. If you haven’t ever had a bad relationship break up like this then you could probably sympathise with someone that has. In a lot of cases and even if the split was amicable, one or both parties can go through that same type of grief as bereavement would cause.

Break ups tend to occur for many reasons such as – infidelity, unsatisfied sex life, jealousy and so much more. In some cases, things that cause break ups can be taken into any new relationships, causing it to be doomed from the start. However this need not happen. Any person going through a break up can now get the help that they need and deserve to get their life back on track.

Research proves that divorce rates around the world have gone higher, and so has the number of heartaches, and break-downs. To address the negative emotions caused by a break-up, Hypnotherapy could be the only answer.

Break-ups can be ugly, and break-ups can be heart breaking. Break-ups can be devastating and break-ups can be tragic. But in all this emotional turmoil, how do you find yourself reacting? Do you view this event as the end of the world, or can you pick up the pieces of your broken heart and move on? Do you find yourself drowning yourself in your sorrow, or do you find yourself getting wiser from the experience. It‘s all a matter of perspective, but it is entirely possible to not lose hope and stay positive even when faced with troublesome times like a break-up or a divorce.

With a step-by-step hypnosis program you too can work towards a future, a future which you‘ve always wanted but never could dream of achieving after your separation. Remember there is more to life than crying over a break-up. The only way to get out of a relationship is with one’s head held high…and it‘s time you felt it for yourself.

With hypnosis you will be amazed just how quickly you see the benefits.

So why will it work? Because it prevents you from falling down like a house of cards. Because it helps you sustain your life force by bringing positivity into your outlook. Because it helps you nurture hope, which can be your sole means of surviving through this pain.

Richard MacKenzie is an expert in helping people get over Relationship Break Ups also check out his download for Break Ups

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Wednesday, November 7, 2007

How To Keep Your Man Happy And Away From Other Women

Relationships in these times are difficult to maintain and women who actively set out to destroy the relationships of others i.e. home wreckers are everywhere. If you do not take the time and trouble to keep your man happy, it will not be long before another woman does it for you.

So is there anything you can do to keep your man happy and away from other women? There sure is. Men are actually quite easy to please but with all of the modern day distractions it is easy to let your relationship slip into a boring mundane routine. Careers, children and house hold chores are just some of the daily tasks that we must juggle in our every day lives, it is not surprising that sometimes we forget to add quality time with our men to the ever growing list of things to do.

But if we are to keep the men in our lives happy and contented we must take the time and make the effort to put his happiness on our agenda. Do not misunderstand me, I do not mean to imply that we do all of the giving and the men do all of the taking. I simply mean that if you know that you have a man that cares for you, treats you well and makes you happy, you need to return the favor.

Keeping a man happy simply requires some imagination and willingness to get up from in front of the TV and do something exciting to get his pulse racing. If you take a few hours and surf the Internet looking at discussion forums and groups you will soon see a pattern emerging. There are several complaints that are common online and I believe that many women are indeed guilty of them.

Here is a quick checklist of things that men like and dislike about women. When you are thinking about this list, be honest; ask yourself if you are guilty of any of the dislikes and if you are achieving any of the likes. Chances are, you are not making your man happy and you could be at risk of loosing him.

Here is the Quick Checklist


Respect, Spontaneity, Adventurousness, Value his opinion, Adult discussions, You looking good, Looking up to him, An exciting sex life, You to listening to him, You looking pleased to see him after a hard day.


Nagging, Smothering him, You talking not listening, Turning into a couch potato, Having sex in the same way, Using sex as a bargaining tool, Belittling him in front of his friends, Constantly accusing him of cheating Talking to him as though he is a naughty kid, Boring clothing (e.g. un-sexy underwear)

These are just a few things that men would like more or less of from their women. The full ultimate checklist can be found in the third addition of my How To Series entitled 'Girlfriend How To keep Your Man In 10 Easy Steps'.

Keeping your man happy will not only make him less likely to desire other women, it will also benefit you because if he is happy he will try even harder to make you happy. It is a win-win situation. All you have to do is follow the guidelines outlined in this article and you will soon be on your way to making your man happy, contented and desperate to remain by your side.

Erica J. Miles has been counseling couples for over 5 years and is the author of three exciting eBooks. Discover what men really want from woman and How To Keep A Man Happy by visiting http://www.keep-a-man-happy.com

Go Now Before You Lose Your Man!

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Thursday, October 11, 2007

The 3 Mistakes To Avoid When Winning an Ex Back

Here are three mistakes that people do when they are trying to win their ex lover back:

Begging and pleading for another chance is not the way to get an ex back. And everything else that makes you look pathetic, frustrated and miserable. The more you beg to get an ex partner back, the less likely it is to ever happen. Desperate behavior is more likely to repel your ex rather than attract him or her. Not chasing after your ex gives you a better chance to win them back - because you are not doing anything negative to win them back.

Acting depressed and trying to make your ex feel guilty about leaving you, so that he or she will feel bad for you and come back, is another common mistake. Doing things to get her or his attention by pretending to be someone you are not is simply bad strategy. Also, don't call your ex, or go to their house, and cry and threaten suicide. This never works. Never forget that stalking is illegal.

Don't tend to rekindle things with your ex too soon. If you only broke up a short time ago, leave a substantial time between breaking up and trying to get back together with your ex. You need to realize that most people need space right after a break up. Give him or her a little time to miss you. If you had a decent relationship chances are that your ex will think about you. There's nothing you can do to instantly bring back your ex, so be patient. Sometimes it could be weeks or months before you get your ex back, but if you really like him or her, it is worth the wait.

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Friday, September 21, 2007

Attract Loving Relationships

George Burns once quipped, "Love is a lot like a backache. It doesn't show up on X-rays, but you know it's there." His words are true indeed. However, love does show up in one's attitudes and actions. When a relationship does not feel as loving as it could, three ingredients are conspicuous by their absence. They are admiration, respect, and freedom.

A client called one morning, complaining that his supervisor and co-workers did not notice him or appreciate the work he did. I asked him, "Do you have a need that is unfulfilled?" He replied, "Yes, I think I need recognition for what I do."

In seeking recognition, people are usually looking for something that recognition actually provides. I asked, "What if we used the word admiration instead of recognition--would it sound accurate?" He exclaimed, "Yes! That's it exactly." Then I asked, "How much admiration do you feel for your supervisor and co- workers, and how do you express it to them?"

As it turned out, this individual was feeling a void for admiration in his personal relationships as well as his career relationships. However, he was also leaving a void in his relationship partners by not expressing the admiration for them that he needed for himself.

Wise words from scripture state, "As you give, so shall you receive." This wisdom could not be truer when it comes to relationships. Relationships need steady, gentle nurturing if they are to grow and thrive. All people need some degree of validation from the people in their lives. To provide that validation, we need to tell others, with simple and sincere compliments, that they are valuable human beings.

Gandhi said, "Be the change you wish to see." Richard Bach wrote, "Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you." We begin with a healthy self-esteem—a loving relationship with our inner being. Then we allow that self-image to permeate our relationships. In this way, we operate from a mindset of abundance—an inner security and certainty that we have plenty of love to share. When we send love into our relationships, our relationships return love to us.

In addition to admiration, respect and freedom are two important ingredients for nurturing a loving relationship. When we choose to give respect and freedom, we also divine trust, integrity, forgiveness, and understanding from the relationship. We allow others to be who they are, as we would want them to allow us to be who we are. The key lies in our reactions—how we reenact, or restructure internally, what others say and do. We might not approve of another person's action; however, we can choose to separate the person from the action—to love the person, and possibly, come to understand and forgive his or her action.

Here is an insightful quote that describes respect and freedom in relationships.
"Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost." ~ Kaleel Jamison

Begin today by giving admiration, respect, and freedom to your family, friends, and co-workers. Very soon, you will notice more admiration, respect, and freedom returned to you. These three ingredients, shared faithfully, will attract to you the loving relationships that you have always wanted.

© Copyright 2007 by Steve Brunkhorst. All rights reserved worldwide. Steve is a professional life strategies coach, motivational author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular ezine bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve more in your career and personal life. Get the next issue by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com
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Saturday, September 8, 2007

Affairs And The Sure Fire Clues

There are several sure fire clues to tell if your partner is having an affair. In many cases individuals see these clues, but choose to ignore them because they really don’t want to know. Cheating is no fun and no one wants to be on the receiving end of infidelity in a dating relationship. Most will say I never saw it coming, but they did. The clues were right there, so be smart and watch for the following.

Clue #1: Lack of Interest
If your dating partner/spouse is lacking in interest, they may have something that is filling their attention. If they are too tired for sex, don’t feel good or are having headaches constantly it may be a big clue that they are having an affair. If they are having sex somewhere else they may be satisfied and not need any intimacy at home. Another clue is if your partner is lacking empathy or not interested in your problems or concerns. When someone is having an affair they usually divert all of their emotional resources to their new partner and have little left for you.

Clue #2: Secretiveness
When someone is cheating their new job becomes keeping it quite. They spend every minute trying to figure out how to avoid getting caught. This is a very tiring job; guarding cell phones, email accounts, mail and other forms of communications. Often times the secretive individual will become irate if questioned about a strange phone number, call or email. The best way to determine where this number or email came from is to keep it quite and do a little snooping. There are a ton of resources on the internet for number look ups, email addresses and other suspicion busters. Don’t jump all over them and make them paranoid before you find out where the number belongs.

Clue #3: Change in Appearance
A big clue to affairs is a change in appearance or a new look. After dating someone for a while often there is a lack of concern about drowning themselves in cologne/perfume, sexy clothing, hair color and general upkeep. If all the sudden your dating partner decides that they need to make a huge change in their appearance, watch out. This is not to say that people will not want to update their look or take back their good looks, but a sudden change might mean that there is a hidden agenda. New clothes, hair style, different under garments and a rigorous diet are big clues.

Clue #4: Money Clues
If money keeps disappearing or you’re dating partner needs a bigger cut every month there may be a reason. Strange charges that are unexplained by your partner on the charge card may indicate that a lover may be purchasing flowers, meals and other gifts for the other man/woman. Often times when confronted your partner will likely say they did not make the charge or lie about it. Sometimes this information can be confirmed with the credit card company or cancelled checks. Cash is more difficult to trace because they could have bought a packet of cigarettes, case of beer or taken someone out to eat.

Clue #5: Changes At Home
If you left the house tidy in the morning and return with odd happenings it may mean that your clue to know if he/she is having an affair is in the house. Odd changes such as wrinkled comforters, wet towels, added dirty clothes or the feeling that someone has been in the house after you both left for work. Check the trash for condom wrappers or other reminents of products that you usually do not use. Empty food containers, candy wrappers and dirty clothes/sheets are the biggest affair clues. These are only a few of the clues to know if your partner is having an affair. No matter whether it is a dating relationship or marriage the clues are often the same. Generally there are many signs involved and you must just watch for them. Do not ignore strange happenings, keep your eyes open.

Lee Blackspur is the owner of My-Dating-Advice.com which provides online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.

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Monday, August 27, 2007

Relationship Break Ups - Stop Them from Happening

There isn't much that can compare to the pain that is felt over relationship break ups. Sometimes it feels as if the heart is bring ripped right out of your chest, and many times you simply feel helpless and unable to cope with the normal things in life when your find yourself on the outside of one of the most important things in your life. If you find yourself in the middle of a broken relationship and you would like to restore it then here are some ways in which you can fix the love that is lost and get back into the relationship that you want, even stronger than before.

Relationships are about giving and taking. For many of us we tend to do one or the other more naturally. Some of us, even thought we may not want to admit it, are more of a taker than a giver. Not that we are selfish with it, but that just tends to be the nature of things. If you find yourself in the middle of a breakup and you would like to stop it then you must take action immediately in order to turn it around. Have you ever seen someone turn a big ship around? As long as the ship is going in a straight line it is fine, it just plows through the water without any trouble. Even small turns are made without problem, the course is simply altered and the changes are hardly noticed. But if a ship gets into a difficult place and it needs to turn it either needs to do one of two things, stop or swing very wide. You need to do one of those things in order to turn your own relationship around.

Try to find out exactly what went wrong. Sure, there are probably some things on the surface that are evident, but they are typically just signs of other things that are lurking below the surface. All of us change over time, and some of us change and grow together, some of us grow apart. If you find that you have grown apart, even just a little since the love was new, then you need to find out what can be done to change that and make those changes. One thing that you must be certain of, however, is that you allow them to discover the changes gradually and naturally. This will allow them to grow back in love with you, and can stop a relationship break up and put you back on the right course.

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Monday, August 20, 2007

What Every Woman Wants

What does every woman want? I normally write about a wide-variety of subjects, but tonight this one is really on my heart. Here's what I think every woman wants.

Listen to her. I mean really listen. Not look around and watch T.V., but listen. She also wants someone she can talk to without him flying off at the handle over every little thing. She wants someone who is patient, firm, and fair with the children, but not abusive, rude, or loud.

Appreciated, respect, and just simply make her feel that she is something "special." She wants to be accepted for who she is and she doesn't want you to try and change her all the time.

Be a spiritual leader. This one we men need to work on big time. A woman wants you to take the family to church, to take charge when it comes to prayer, Bible reading, and spiritual matters. A woman wants you to sing, as the scripture says, to continuously encourage one another with psalms,hymns, spiritual songs, and constant awareness of Christ and his presence as Head of the Household.

Use positive words. I've noticed that my wife brightens up the moment I release a word like: "You sure look pretty today, or wow, you are something special, you look like the queen of England" just to name a few precious statements.

Stay away from negativity. Give her love, love, love, all day long. Every woman wants you to eat your negative words and release the positive ones. Every woman wants you to treat her as you would want to be treated. Those men out there who are bossing their wives and being too macho, take notice, you are only pushing her further away, not closer to you.

I heard a story recently from a friend who told me about this guy Tony who started making more money and went to the top of his company, only to spend less and less time with his family-true story. Someone here locally with a brand new wonderful home in Rancho Cucamonga, CA near the Victoria Gardens mall. The wife told him "You better start spending more time with me, or else."

Long story short, the man came home one night only to find everything gone. I mean everything. Furniture, phone, you name it. He never saw his kids again and was left with nothing. He forgot to do what every woman wants: pay attention to warning signs.

Let's face it, as my pastor says, we are all "replaceable." None of us are all that and a bag of chips! We must guard our mouths. One of my prayers each day is: "Lord put a guard over my mouth and watch over the door of my lips." It is so important to watch our mouths with our beloved wife.

Have a vision. A man who will go forward to accomplish goals and dreams. Scripture says "without a vision, the people perish." Forgive me for not citing actual chapter and verse, but the words of our Lord are everlasting nonetheless! There are too many men out there who are satisfied with status quo, when God has promised us that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us!

Give your all. It's not enough for you to just do "whatever." Women want a visionary who will help the family achieve their every dream and goal. Some women seem to be satisfied with a man who works and brings home a paycheck, and is good to the family. That's fine too.

Become a working man. If you are self-employed, you must be making over $2500 a month or your just playing. If you are in a home business, that same number applies, again, or your just playing.

Men must work. No doubt about it. Every woman wants a working man. If your not working, no woman wants you. They may say they do, but deep down, they don't.

In conclusion though, every woman wants a MAN. This is someone who will love her, die for her, be playful, curious, and funny with her, make sure that she is taken care of, not speak negatively toward her ever, protect her, do everything that she likes, watch over her, keep her, be best friends with her, make date nights a priority, love the children, but not more than her, love Christ with all his heart, and not just be a Sunday Christian.

Be stable. Every woman wants stability financially, spiritually, and socially. She wants someone with dollars and sense, someone who will have knowledge in financial matters, not just pretend. Every woman wants someone who is stable. Don't expect to get an awesome wife if your not stable. Don't expect to get a decent woman if your not stable.

Stable means a lot of things, but every woman wants a man who has a good temper, a deep pocketbook and heart, a good name and reputation (single women take note of this list please), not someone who stirs up rumors or talks about people, someone who is kind, a man who is family orientated, a passionate man, a loving man, a man who is on fire for the Lord, not just on Sunday only, a man who would die for her.

Most of all though, every woman wants you to love her and place that love above everything else except God. Also, every woman wants a man who will continue to WORK at the relationship and not quit. By not quitting and working, you are telling her that you love her. Every woman also wants you to keep your word. That means fulfill your vows and do what you say you are going to do. And be there for her days of plenty and days of lack. And never stop loving her. Ever. That's what every woman truly wants.


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